A fork in the road

I’m not quite sure when it all went wrong. I’m sure if I think back I can pinpoint when it started to unravel.  The ease of conversation became strained over time. I kept moving forward, while she was seemingly stuck.  I have no qualms about helping a friend out here and there, but I will not baby you.  We all make decisions, some good and some bad.  But you learn and you move on.  Apparently she could not move forward.  I tried, offered support and encouragement.  So when do you decide that a friendship needs to end?  When they start to suck the life out of you with every conversation had? or when you begin to feel used?  I started picking up things I probably had noticed before but brushed off.  Ok, so we have a mutual friend who is gay.  Well we have known them for a number of years.  She had even been married before.  I accepted their lifestyle because after all it is their life.  And as a friend I believed that we should support each other.  If you disagree then verbalize your disagreement to that person, but she could not let it go.  The constant smart remarks, the faces made when asked if she invited our friend to an event, met with the “I hope they doesn’t bring their lover.”  So yes, I asked “why be their friend?”.  And was met with a look of really and the response of “I don’t agree with their lifestyle.”  Which is fine but guess what, I don’t agree with your hypocrisy.  I can’t smile at them one minute and then loathe the ways they live another.  I have decided to give it one last chance, our children are close and I hate to see such a long friendship dissolve, but I know eventually we will drift further apart and maybe she realizes and maybe she doesn’t.  But I’m tired of being the supporter, the cheerleader in the corner trying to get the bull to move forward or the truth teller.  So I guess only time will tell…
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